QOTD: Seeing the person you like with someone else..

[vintageman]

Hey guys,
so i would assume that seeing that person you like/love or dated, with another guy/girl is the final blow that a relationship or a failed attempt at a relationship can give you..personally i haven't really seen anyone i went out with, with another guy..but certainly have seen girls i have liked with other guys..but not of a girl that i like alot (thinking about it gives me the creeps)..and it was..BAD!..
have you had any such experiences?? how bad was it??...

upgraded to QOTD by ~Alien~

[Soap McTavish]

Why is it bad ? you/she ended the relationship cause you/she thought its just not going to work. You probably got dumped. Maybe you dumped her sorry ass.. if so why worry ? why even care who is she is with now ? That chapter is over. you need to move on to the next chapter. If you catch your present g.f with some other guy while you're together just break her face.. Never be nice to women all the time. They will walk all over you. Keep the balance. This is a lesson I learned the hard way..trust me.. cheers mate..

[vintageman]

Why is it bad ? you/she ended the relationship cause you/she thought its just not going to work. You probably got dumped. Maybe you dumped her sorry ass.. if so why worry ? why even care who is she is with now ? That chapter is over. you need to move on to the next chapter. If you catch your present g.f with some other guy while you're together just break her face.. Never be nice to women all the time. They will walk all over you. Keep the balance. This is a lesson I learned the hard way..trust me.. cheers mate..

Well..i agree, it's inexcusable..but it always takes a bit of time to move on after a bad relationship wouldn't you agree? for some people it takes days..for some it takes months..it's just that within that time...THAT what i mentioned is a real hard thing to...see!

[alien]

Hey guys,
so i would assume that seeing that person you like/love or dated, with another guy/girl is the final blow that a relationship or a failed attempt at a relationship can give you..personally i haven't really seen anyone i went out with, with another guy..but certainly have seen girls i have liked with other guys..but not of a girl that i like alot (thinking about it gives me the creeps)..and it was..BAD!..
have you had any such experiences?? how bad was it??...

upgraded to QOTD by ~Alien~

awful lot of times..

Firstly, it is my first crush. She fairly and squarely rejected me twice, but we remained good friends. She met her future husband at a gym. She was reluctant to tell it to me. But later she told me the whole story. It was devastating at first. But as time pass by, I didn't feel it that bad. Maybe because I was working on other romantic interests and stuff. But after years, I felt that they are going very strong. So I bless them and they are planning to get married next year.

Second one, it was during AL years (a SBBV chick). Being a emotionally unstable teenager, was all for it even I got rejected early on. Then one day.. I was leaving Rotary Centre (Nugegoda).. walking down the hill in front of the school... she is walking on the opposite direction to the Rotary with a guy. I didn't suspect at first. 100 yards down the road, I looked back to see out of curiosity. Saw them walking holding hands together.. instantly I knew.. I lost it forever. It was devastating never the less.

Third one, it was my first crush in univ. I had a 'tumultuous relationship' with her for one and half years. As in, can't call it a friendship.. as we shared a lot of things, and can't call it a romantic relationship.. as we never dated. But she is the only person I came close to dating. But at the end, all went down the hill and she rejected me under the grounds she has no intention of getting married to anyone or have a BF and religion mismatch issues (she was catholic). I was so depressed, I removed her from my friendster, phone/email directories, MSN, whatever ways I can get in touch with her and grieving alone. Towards the end of last year, I happened to bump in to her FB accidentally. That's when I learn that she is happily married for 2 years and has a kid already. It was mind blowing at first. Later I send her a FB msg and congratulate on her kid. Surprisingly, she replied and said she is a full time mom now. (call me a bastard, but I feel very happy for my self.. because me being an average student.. I went all the way to PhD school and living a life most my peers never going to have.. while she being the high IQ than me.. ended up being a house wife).


I think the right attitude when you see whom you love(d) is happily living with somebody else is... be happy for them and most importantly, let them enjoy what they can... rather you being the 3rd person haunting around them making their life miserable (I see some jealous guys like that).

I am waiting for one more to happen.. it is the last one (ever) I asked out. She is still single and I am pretty sure she will get hooked up one of these days OR will get married to some hunk. She is someone I am still struggling to get over with (despite its been 3 years). But I understand she will not like me ever.. and our friendship has been distanced since I asked her. I faced all the other calamities when I was a teetotaller. But when I get a confirmation that she is /w someone, I know exactly where to go....... the pub !!! I want to drink a tower that day !!!


<< sorry for being lengthy and emotional. sometimes its hard to keep everything to my self.. it just drives me nutz. And don't have much cash to drink every time I meltdown emotionally. Thanks guys >>

[vintageman]

Oh man...tell me when you do...we must drink many virtual beers for this issue...i'm also expecting something like that to happen to me!! right around the corner...

[Nick]

Why is it bad ? you/she ended the relationship cause you/she thought its just not going to work. You probably got dumped. Maybe you dumped her sorry ass.. if so why worry ? why even care who is she is with now ? That chapter is over. you need to move on to the next chapter. If you catch your present g.f with some other guy while you're together just break her face.. Never be nice to women all the time. They will walk all over you. Keep the balance. This is a lesson I learned the hard way..trust me.. cheers mate..

well said bro..thts d way it is ..

[precious.17]

Nice thread =)... Kind of personal, but it's good to open up.

I haven't actually personally witnessed it as in from my own eyes.. but I do have versions of it which I'll tell you

1) I used to date one of my ex best friends in gr 10.. and he actually left his girl for me (small world, his girl is actually someone I know). She got really bitchy with me so I got defensive and just like attacked her and it didn't bug me when he left her. I was kinda proud and just took him and flaunted him to her. Stupid me, I know but what to do. I was freaking 15, young and dumb LOL... anyway, it bit me hard in the ass later.

He had pasted a convo to me while me and him were dating. I didn't even start reading it, until he went nuts and kept msging me.. telling me not to read it. We were on webcam and chatting. He made me close the window and me being the naive girlfriend, did so. I didn't check my convo records til we were broken up (3 months later). He had pasted to me a part of the cyber sex him and the girl (his ex, the girl i knew) were having. It was pretty sad to read it. Like i felt crushed, but I guess I deserved it for what I did to her. I dropped it after that though, haven't spoken to him since.


2) I was going out with a guy in high school. It wasn't too serious but it lasted about 10 months. Again, towards the end of our relationship... he was getting really attached to a friend of mine. She was always leaving notes in his locker and calling him, always on the phone with him. Once I seen them together... they weren't making out or whatever but he had his arm around her and stuff (and it's funny because she was going out with his best friend). Anyway, me and his best friend ended up getting hurt because those two decided to dump us and go out with each other. It was pretty wack. I moved schools after that because both my ex boyfriend and ex friend were there and I couldn't study while watching them. Also, from that day... I distanced myself from getting too close to making friends.


3) I was in a serious, committed relationship with a guy for 2.3 years. I was madly in love with him actually. My first love. His parents knew and they were cool with it. My parents, being raised in a Muslim family, absolutely forbid it. But I was in love LOL so I didn't let him go.

Once (this was towards the last month of our relationship -- I didn't know then though) we were having a fight so he ignored me for a bout two weeks. Longest I think we've gone with not talking because of a fight. So one day, I called him from work during my break.. and a girl picked up. She told me not to call ever again and that he doesn't want to talk to me. I could hear him laughing in the background and flirting with her. That broke my heart. Because he was mine and at that moment, I felt like he was hers. And I begged her to give the phone to him but she told me to never call again, laughed and just hung up. It was pretty brutal. I didn't get over him til another 1.5 years later.

They ended up getting married. I'm happy for them now. But at the time, it broke my heart.

[Soap McTavish]

Nice thread =)... Kind of personal, but it's good to open up.

I haven't actually personally witnessed it as in from my own eyes.. but I do have versions of it which I'll tell you

1) I used to date one of my ex best friends in gr 10.. and he actually left his girl for me (small world, his girl is actually someone I know). She got really bitchy with me so I got defensive and just like attacked her and it didn't bug me when he left her. I was kinda proud and just took him and flaunted him to her. Stupid me, I know but what to do. I was freaking 15, young and dumb LOL... anyway, it bit me hard in the ass later.

He had pasted a convo to me while me and him were dating. I didn't even start reading it, until he went nuts and kept msging me.. telling me not to read it. We were on webcam and chatting. He made me close the window and me being the naive girlfriend, did so. I didn't check my convo records til we were broken up (3 months later). He had pasted to me a part of the cyber sex him and the girl (his ex, the girl i knew) were having. It was pretty sad to read it. Like i felt crushed, but I guess I deserved it for what I did to her. I dropped it after that though, haven't spoken to him since.


2) I was going out with a guy in high school. It wasn't too serious but it lasted about 10 months. Again, towards the end of our relationship... he was getting really attached to a friend of mine. She was always leaving notes in his locker and calling him, always on the phone with him. Once I seen them together... they weren't making out or whatever but he had his arm around her and stuff (and it's funny because she was going out with his best friend). Anyway, me and his best friend ended up getting hurt because those two decided to dump us and go out with each other. It was pretty wack. I moved schools after that because both my ex boyfriend and ex friend were there and I couldn't study while watching them. Also, from that day... I distanced myself from getting too close to making friends.


3) I was in a serious, committed relationship with a guy for 2.3 years. I was madly in love with him actually. My first love. His parents knew and they were cool with it. My parents, being raised in a Muslim family, absolutely forbid it. But I was in love LOL so I didn't let him go.

Once (this was towards the last month of our relationship -- I didn't know then though) we were having a fight so he ignored me for a bout two weeks. Longest I think we've gone with not talking because of a fight. So one day, I called him from work during my break.. and a girl picked up. She told me not to call ever again and that he doesn't want to talk to me. I could hear him laughing in the background and flirting with her. That broke my heart. Because he was mine and at that moment, I felt like he was hers. And I begged her to give the phone to him but she told me to never call again, laughed and just hung up. It was pretty brutal. I didn't get over him til another 1.5 years later.

They ended up getting married. I'm happy for them now. But at the time, it broke my heart.

Awwwww.. I'm sorry to hear that precious but not all the guys are like that. so fingers crossed mate

[alien]

Nice thread =)... Kind of personal, but it's good to open up.

I haven't actually personally witnessed it as in from my own eyes.. but I do have versions of it which I'll tell you

1) I used to date one of my ex best friends in gr 10.. and he actually left his girl for me (small world, his girl is actually someone I know). She got really bitchy with me so I got defensive and just like attacked her and it didn't bug me when he left her. I was kinda proud and just took him and flaunted him to her. Stupid me, I know but what to do. I was freaking 15, young and dumb LOL... anyway, it bit me hard in the ass later.

He had pasted a convo to me while me and him were dating. I didn't even start reading it, until he went nuts and kept msging me.. telling me not to read it. We were on webcam and chatting. He made me close the window and me being the naive girlfriend, did so. I didn't check my convo records til we were broken up (3 months later). He had pasted to me a part of the cyber sex him and the girl (his ex, the girl i knew) were having. It was pretty sad to read it. Like i felt crushed, but I guess I deserved it for what I did to her. I dropped it after that though, haven't spoken to him since.


2) I was going out with a guy in high school. It wasn't too serious but it lasted about 10 months. Again, towards the end of our relationship... he was getting really attached to a friend of mine. She was always leaving notes in his locker and calling him, always on the phone with him. Once I seen them together... they weren't making out or whatever but he had his arm around her and stuff (and it's funny because she was going out with his best friend). Anyway, me and his best friend ended up getting hurt because those two decided to dump us and go out with each other. It was pretty wack. I moved schools after that because both my ex boyfriend and ex friend were there and I couldn't study while watching them. Also, from that day... I distanced myself from getting too close to making friends.


3) I was in a serious, committed relationship with a guy for 2.3 years. I was madly in love with him actually. My first love. His parents knew and they were cool with it. My parents, being raised in a Muslim family, absolutely forbid it. But I was in love LOL so I didn't let him go.

Once (this was towards the last month of our relationship -- I didn't know then though) we were having a fight so he ignored me for a bout two weeks. Longest I think we've gone with not talking because of a fight. So one day, I called him from work during my break.. and a girl picked up. She told me not to call ever again and that he doesn't want to talk to me. I could hear him laughing in the background and flirting with her. That broke my heart. Because he was mine and at that moment, I felt like he was hers. And I begged her to give the phone to him but she told me to never call again, laughed and just hung up. It was pretty brutal. I didn't get over him til another 1.5 years later.

They ended up getting married. I'm happy for them now. But at the time, it broke my heart.

ouch!love hurts.. if you don't meet the right person.

But be happy... at least you are one step ahead of people like myself...

[coolcartoon]

Why is it bad ? you/she ended the relationship cause you/she thought its just not going to work. You probably got dumped. Maybe you dumped her sorry ass.. if so why worry ? why even care who is she is with now ? That chapter is over. you need to move on to the next chapter. If you catch your present g.f with some other guy while you're together just break her face.. Never be nice to women all the time. They will walk all over you. Keep the balance. This is a lesson I learned the hard way..trust me.. cheers mate..

True.